A guide for mothers of daughters

The First Moon

Talk to your daughter about her first cycle — before she has to figure it out alone in a school bathroom.

A free 12-page guide. Yours when you join.

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Most of us got a pamphlet and a pad.

Some of us cried in a bathroom because we thought we were dying.

Some of us got nothing at all.

Our daughters can have a real conversation.

12 pages, free

Inside the guide.

  • 8

    What to say at age 8

    Body autonomy · early breast buds · pubic hair as biology, not "early"

  • 9

    What to say at 9

    The signs that come before the period · the timeline · how to track

  • 10

    What to say at 10

    Periods named clearly · what to expect · pads vs cups vs underwear · what to keep in her backpack

  • 11

    What to say at 11

    Cramps · mood · sleep · why a hot water bottle changes everything · when to call her clinician

  • +

    Six rituals — for the family that wants one

    From a private dinner to a single letter. Pick one. Skip the rest.

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    14 books, vetted, sorted by age

    What to actually buy. What to skip.

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My daughter is four. I'm writing what I wish my mom had handed me at nine.

— Ryan Borker. Not a clinician.